Even on an ordinary day, I enjoy setting the table. I believe that a thoughtfully decorated table can be just as important as the feast itself in creating a memorable meal with my family and friends.
To me, setting the table is not a chore; instead it’s an expression of love. I want the time we spend together at the table to make everyone feel special — that they (family and guests) matter, that they have a space to slow down and fill their stomachs and souls. When my days are swamped with work, I opt for simple and straightforward, but sweet and elegant table arrangements.
Aside from enjoying good food, we also enjoy our mealtime conversation, which is important to me and my family. Indeed, some of the most important conversations I’ve ever had took place at our family’s dining table — talking about our feelings and thoughts, sharing stories and experiences, debating important issues and current events, and discussing topics we’re interested in, such as books, music, movies, history, food, and travel, among other things. It’s also a great chance for our son to practice good manners by listening and taking turns in the conversation, allowing each member to speak and share.
Besides the various designs and amount of tableware and cutlery that vary with each occasion, here’s how I set our dining table:
1. As a rule of thumb, the height of the centerpiece is always based on me since I’m the shortest/smallest in the family — keeping it low and narrow — ensures we can make eye contact while talking and see each other across the table.
2. Since our table is small, I keep the centerpieces to a minimum: a small vase with fresh flowers, salt and pepper shakers, and a scented candle. After all, the food and wine are the stars of the show.
3. I light a different candle for each occasion because the table must be perfumed and sprinkled with the opulent, romantic, and wonderful fragrance of a scented candle. Also, the flicker of candlelight creates a cozy atmosphere in the room, making it feel warm and welcoming. We enjoy lighting a scented candle on our dinner table because it completes the table, no matter how beautifully decorated it is.
4. Generally, I place two glasses at each place setting. It’s always nice to have a refreshing glass of water alongside a fancy beverage.
5. Most of the time, we use our rattan placemat because it adds another natural element to our table and creates a more relaxed and un-fussy look.
6. Depending on the occasion, I like to gorgeously dress our table with a simple and classic all-over pattern tablecloth or plain tablecloth.
7. I use table napkins that match the table cloth or are appropriate for the theme. Sometimes I fold the napkin nicely, use a napkin ring, or finish it with a cute bow around it.
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