Last year, we headed to Koh Kong, and gladly chose to stay at Canvas & Orchids Retreat formerly known as the 4 Rivers Floating Lodge. It’s a perfectly tranquil oasis situated in the heart of Cardamom Cambodian rainforest at Koh Andet, Tatai. It’s off the beaten path, with untouched virgin forest, rare orchids, stunning colors, a chorus of birdsong as the sun rises, and beautiful jungle creatures. Canvas & Orchids Retreat combines the luxury of a four-star eco-friendly boutique resort with privacy, luxury, and exclusivity, perfumed with an air of peace and solitude.
It was quite a long journey—about five hours—to get there from Phnom Penh by taxi, but it was really worth it. The Canvas and Orchids Retreat was just what we wanted. By the time we reached Koh Kong, we were ready to relax and were excited to stay here. We were transferred by boat for about 15–20 minutes down the Tatai River from where our car had dropped us off, and the further down the river we went, the more idyllic the setting became.
We were greeted with a homemade cocktail the moment we stepped into the resort. Our tent was enormous and brilliant, and was built inland because there were no available floating tents at the time. There was a large, comfortable double bed inside the tent, as well as a TV, a DVD player (with DVDs available at the reception), a bedroom with two single beds, a couch with chairs and table, and a large en suite bathroom with a shower tub and LPG-heated water. Outside the tent was a huge terrace with two sunbeds, a parasol, two chairs with a small table, and a hammock for outdoor relaxation.
The ethos of Canvas & Orchids Retreat, which strives to be as environmentally friendly as possible and has an impressive focus on sustainability, was encouraging. We noticed that every detail had been carefully considered, and the staff had thoroughly explained it to us. I loved the details explaining the provenance of many of the items in our room and the overall message that they try to really pull together to upcycle, recycle, and protect the environment. They also do a lot to support their local youth and communities.
The tent was serviced daily to good effect. We liked how they recycled glass bottles and stored them in the refrigerator with filtered water. They replenished our filtered water supply every day to ensure we always had enough fresh water. Also, we particularly appreciated “the flask fairy”, who left a flask of boiling water for making hot drinks and freshly baked cookies and biscuits on the deck at dawn so we could watch the sunrise over the river and the forest, listen to the sweet melodies of birds, and savor the serenity of the surroundings while enjoying a hot drink. Is there a better way to start the day?
The restaurant or open-plan kitchen provides an array of freshly prepared food, both local and ‘western’ dishes, throughout the day. Everything we ate was excellent. The food was well prepared, delicious, well priced, and some of the best that we had in Cambodia. You can choose from a 4-course set menu, or there is an A La Carte one too. They provided us with filtered water at no extra cost! The bar is well stocked and makes great cocktails made with flair and love.
Canvas & Orchids Retreat offers a range of activities and interesting nature tours. During our three-night stay, we trekked into the jungle of the Cardamom Mountains, a mountain range that covers more than 4.4 million hectares of rainforest in southwestern Cambodia. It is one of the country’s great natural sites and one of Southeast Asia’s largest unfragmented rainforests. Everyone will find a hidden gem in this natural treasure trove, as there’s a chance to see 450 different bird species, as well as Sun bears and Asian elephants. Furthermore, there are towering waterfalls, mountain biking, kayaking, and treks to ecological and cultural sites for thrill seekers. It is home to about 250,000 people belonging to ethnic minorities, and it also houses endemic species and endangered wildlife, including gibbons, Siamese crocodiles, pangolins, and Sun Bears. In addition, every year, it produces a massive amount of water, supplying water to 16 hydro-power dams across the country, which generate an estimated 20% of Cambodia’s electricity.
Then, we took a day boat trip to Tatai Waterfall, which is situated amidst a lush jungle setting on the Tatai River. This large rocky cascade is quite impressive, as it flows all year with clear water and breathtaking scenery. During the dry season, it is possible to swim in the naturally formed pools at the bottom of the cascade and walk across the ledge. During the wet season, the river flows with all its might, and the waterfall is more spectacular, with the enraged white foamed waters running over a fall 4 meters long. We went there by boat from the resort and were taken to the lower section of the falls. Then we trekked through the jungle and up a rocky path to the waterfall’s top, where we relaxed in the water. Since it poured heavily the night before we went there, the pools were large and deep, perfect to dive into.
We also explored and kayaked around the island along Tatai River, which meanders through the Cardamom Mountains. It flows gently for the most part, belying its 20-meter depth, and in some places with a thunderous roar as the riverbed drops away to form cascading waterfalls. It is a superb place: rich in biodiversity, calm, peaceful, and ideal for boat or kayak trips. The Tatai River’s banks are teeming with wildlife, and wildlife watching on the Tatai River is a relaxing way to spend the day. As we kayaked down the river, we saw many calm stretches of water set deep among the mangroves. Certainly, adventures on the Tatai River are a great way to discover south-west Cambodia’s wild side, whether you enjoy kayaking, trekking, or simply absorbing the surrounding environment from your tent.
One night, before dinner, and when it was not raining, the resort treated us to a boat trip to watch the fireflies. It was our son’s first time seeing fireflies. Male fireflies use their flash to attract females, and each species has its own pattern of light blinking, with firefly light varying in color from yellow to orange to green. The sight of a hundred fireflies flickering and dancing through the night in a forest on the riverbank on a quiet, dark night is one of the most beautiful sights your eyes can withhold. Fireflies are, in fact, nature’s fireworks that can be enjoyed without causing pollution. These tiny creatures make the night even more beautiful and have truly captivated the imaginations of humans for centuries with their mesmerizing glow. We really appreciate the surreal and exquisite beauty of nature.
Moreover, we also went fishing at the pontoon, had a lazy day, and spent time relaxing in nature with a beautiful view from the tent.
It’s simply a tropical paradise where you can relax and do as much or as little as you wish with amazing, friendly, and helpful staff who couldn’t do enough to make our stay memorable, which it was! Our guide was funny and informative! When our 15 year old son asked for a fishing rod, it was perfectly supplied with fresh shrimp baits too. They provided all the guests with life vests during the boat trip, and you can use the kayaks free of charge. Everyone who works here cares passionately about this place and preserving nature.
We loved our four-day getaway at Canvas and Orchids Retreat, which is now one of our favorite places to stay in the kingdom. It certainly didn’t disappoint us from start to finish. The environment was serene, safe, and reliable. What an excellent timeout in a gem of a place in a tent, and we are absolutely looking forward to our next stay!
Little Lilly Travel Tips:
Be careful of the leeches, because there are many in the river.
Bring some mosquito spray, especially if you wish to hike through the forest.
Cambodia is a small country, but it is a gem in Southeast Asia with a lot to offer for everyone, including a diverse culture, a rich history, deep-rooted colonial influences, gorgeous landscapes, the innate hospitality of its people, and so much more. Having spent the past 14 years as expats living and working in Phnom Penh, we believe we know enough about this beautiful nation. Hence, I decided to share our list of the top 14 reasons why you ought to visit Cambodia at least once in your life.
In July 2017, we took our son to see the Angkor Temples in Siem Reap.
The charm and genuine hospitality of the people
The people of Cambodia make the country more special. With their friendliness, profusion of smiles, generosity, kindness, and genuine hospitality, they entice visitors and tourists to return time and time again. We have traveled from north to south and east to west, and we have received the same consistent warm welcome and kindness from the locals. It’s a smiling country; everyone welcomes you with a big smile on their faces and greets you with “Sous Dai, Bong!” The locals always wear their smiles, making Cambodian people quite fashionable.
I admire the hardworking people of Cambodia.
Incredible amount of history
The ancient Angkor Temples in Siem Reap provide a magnificent insight into the past of the great Khmer Empire, a time of national pride that endures to this day. One of the temples in Angkor is Angkor Wat, which was built in the 12th century by King Suryavarnam II. It is a symbol of Cambodia, a UNESCO World Heritage Site since 1992, classified by the Guinness World Records as the largest religious monument in the world, and before the Covid-19 pandemic hit, it was visited by two million tourists every year. It is fascinating to wander around the ancient temples of Angkor and learn more about the kings who built them and the conversion from Hinduism and Buddhism.
Our first visit in the Angkor Temples was in October 2010.
The Royal Palace in Phnom Penh was established in 1866, and it showcases Khmer architecture and gives you a peek of Cambodian culture and heritage. It is wonderful to wander around the complex and explore every building inside. The Silver pagoda on the south side of the palace features a royal temple and houses many national treasures such as gold and silver Buddha statues encrusted with diamonds.
At the Royal Palace of Cambodia
The Ancient City of Odong is located in Kandal province, about 35 km northwest of Phnom Penh via National Road Number 5. The Mountain of Oudong (Phnom Oudong) consists of many archaeological findings from pre-Angkor, Angkor and Post-Angkor periods such as sandstone architectural elements and artifacts resulting from the worship of Animism, Hinduism, Mahayana Buddhism and Theravada Buddhism. It is also a site where the kings were buried.
At the top of Phnom Oudong
Both the Tuol Sleng Genocide Museum and the Choeung Ek Killing Field are in Phnom Penh and provide detailed information on the Khmer Rouge, a communist political group in Cambodia. The four-year period of the Cambodian Genocide, which took place between 1975 and 1979 after the Khmer Rouge came to power in the nation following the Cambodian Civil War, killed 3 million people. However, on January 7, 1979, Vietnamese troops seized Phnom Penh, overthrowing the brutal regime of Pol Pot. I believe it is a must-see for everyone (at least 16 years old and above) to hear the heartbreaking and horrendous stories in order to understand Cambodia and to stop this kind of atrocities from repeating in the future.
Choeung Ek Memorial (the Killing Fields) was one of the execution grounds during the Khmer Rouge, which killed thousands of people.
Natural beauty and inspiring landscapes
Cambodia has beautiful mountains such as Bokor Mountain and Cardamom Mountains with deep jungles that are ideal for hiking. The Cardamom Mountains are Southeast Asia’s largest remaining rainforest and home to a number of endangered species, including the gibbons, elephants, clouded leopards, pangolins, sun bears, and many more. Also, it is home to ethnic minority groups.
We trekked through the Cardamom Mountains in Koh Kong.
It was raining hard when we went to Bokor Mountain, but we managed to take a picture of the old Catholic Church on the mountain, built in 1919, the 2nd oldest standing Catholic Church in Cambodia.
It also has several stunning tropical islands with beautiful beaches on Koh Rong, southwest of Cambodia. Koh Rong has white beaches, clear turquoise sea, and a leisurely pace of life. The surrounding coral reefs make for excellent snorkeling all day long. This small paradise is perfect if you are looking for idyllic beaches and want to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city and work.
Building a sandcastle in the sand and reading on the beach.
We were the only ones on the beach! Love it!
We love the secluded beaches in Cambodia! In fact, our favorites!
Cambodia also has great lakes and rivers including the Yeak Laom Lake, the Tonle Sap Lake, the Mekong River, the Tatai River in Koh Kong, and the Teuk Chhou River in Kampot, that are ideal for kayaking and sunset boat cruises.
This was in July 2018. In the background is the beautiful Yeak Laom Lake in Ratakaniri, a volcanic crater lake that was formed after the volcanic eruption around 700,000 years ago.
Alan and I kayaked along the Teuk Chhou River from 1 p.m. until 5 p.m. under the scorching heat of the sun. It was one of our memorable experiences in 2012 because we got lost in the cathedral (the mangrove areas) and the tides were big and rough on the way back.
Furthermore, it also has scenic wooded hills in Mondulkiri, eastern region in Cambodia, tremendous tumbling waterfalls in lush forest in Ratanikiri, northern Cambodia, and wonderful parks in Kirirom, southern part of Cambodia.
We went waterfall hopping in Ratanikiri.
In July 2018, we explored the eastern region of Cambodia, and one of the things we enjoyed was walking hills after hills in Mondulkiri.
Bou Sra is a scenic triple-tiered drop waterfall in Mondulkiri.
Lush forest in Ratanikiri
Family friendly activities
All throughout the country, Cambodia provides safe family-friendly activities suitable for kids and offers families the ideal mix of exploration activities, from exploring the world-famous ruins at the Angkor Temples to jungle trekking to paddling up and down the winding scenic rivers to enjoying the tropical islands to learning about arts, and so many more. It offers a variety of activities and experiences that will amuse visitors of all ages, including zip lining, kayaking, caving, rock climbing, bicycling, quad biking, scuba diving, art classes, cooking classes, the Cambodia acrobat circus, cultural villages, nice swimming pools at distinctive resorts, and a lot more.
We kayaked the whole morning to explore the Tatai River. It was a unique take on the country and a fantastic way to learn about its biodiversity.
We opted to have a glimpse of the underwater world in Koh Rong.
It was an incredible equestrian adventure! Our horses took us the whole afternoon on a tranquil journey as we trotted through the countryside for a taste of the authentic Khmer lifestyle.
Caving Kampot! Besides the cool rock formations, there is a 5th century (pre-Angkorian) Funan Temple inside Phnom Chhngok Cave.
…and I scratched the adventuring itch. I completed all the obstacles and ziplined through the woods. What a great way to view the world from a different perspective!
Focus on the target.
Pete was enjoying himself by jumping into the Tatai Waterfall several times!
Exploring the countryside on a quadbike is awesome.
Varied cuisine
Cambodia is a paradise for food lovers. Every dish is an explosion of flavors between sweet, spicy, and bitter, salty and sour, fresh and cooked. They love contrast on their plates, and every meal includes a variety of sauces such as sour fish sauce, chili, and lemon with salt and pepper. They love noodle soup, baguettes, and wine. Some of our favorite dishes are fish amok, beef Loklak, vegetable soup, and many more.
Wildlife and biodiversity
Everyone can enjoy Cambodia’s diverse wildlife and biodiversity, which range from the mighty Mekong to tropical paradises, waterfalls, birdlife, and mountain ranges. For all animal lovers, you can enjoy a full-day behind-the-scenes tour of the Phnom Tamao Rescue Center, which nurses and rehabilitates wild range animals that have been rescued from the clutches of poachers and the illegal trade before being released back into the wild. When we went there, we had a close-up look at the animals, such as gibbons, pangolins that were eventually released into the wild, Lucky the female elephant, one tiger that was a zoo rescue from a safe distance, and many more. Besides a tour at Phnom Tamao Rescue Center, you can enjoy bird watching on the outskirts of Phnom Penh, wildlife tour in Siem Reap, the elephant sanctuaries in Mondulkiri, and various treks through the Cardamom Mountains. All these will undoubtedly give you a WOW experience.
Pete had a close encounter with Lucky, a female elephant at Phnom Tamao Rescue Center.
Free the bears!
Behind us were lovely deer. Can you spy on them?
Innovative accommodations
Across the country, Cambodia provides safe and innovative accommodations. Wherever you go, if you are looking for some rest, relaxation, and downtime, you can find chic and stylish hotels within your price range for travelers looking for some time off.
We had a relaxing stay at the One Resort.
Excellent value for money
All over Cambodia, hotels, dining options, attractions, nightlife, and more are reasonably priced, especially if you go local, which you really ought to do.
We always have a pleasurable and peaceful staycation at Baitong Hotel & Resort in Phnom Penh.
Sustainable initiatives
The government and the private sector of the nation are both making investments in green, sustainable, and environmentally conscious travel initiatives, from hotels and resorts to activity options.
We had a great stay at Canvas & Orchids Retreat Resort, an eco-friendly resort in Tatai, Koh Kong.
Farmhouse Resort & Spa is one of the eco-friendly resorts to which we like going back.
We had an exclusive stay at the Ratanikiri Paradise Resort. It was great!
Authentic travel
Nowadays, travelers prefer more genuine experiences, and Cambodia has a lot of these, including lounging on a secluded island, trekking through the jungle, taking in the rare flora and fauna, cycling through undeveloped countryside, staying in a community homestay, learning how to cook traditional Cambodian food, immersing yourself in one of the many festivals, and many others.
We visited a floating village in Siem Reap sometime ago.
Exploring the dense jungle in Cambodia.
The amazing view of the salt fields in Kampot is seen under the blue sky on a sunny day. It’s like the world’s natural gigantic mirrow. And a spot of reflection is always good for the soul!
A short talk before we explored a pepper farm in Kampot
Laze at the secluded beach.
Rich culture
Cambodia is dubbed the “Kingdom of Wonder.” Cambodian people are infused with the rich culture and heritage of their country. They provide opportunities for the visitors to immerse themselves in the vibrant local scene, which includes stage performances, elaborate ceremonies, magical Apsara dance, traditional music, etc. You may also check out Cambodian Living Arts, which offers a series of traditional dance shows.
Traditional local dancers gracefully danced the Aprsara Dance during the charity concert performed by Musica Felice.
Celebrations
Numerous public holidays and festivals are observed throughout the year in Cambodia. Some of the major celebrations include Khmer New Year in April, and in November is the Water Festival, where a large crowd gathers at the Tonle Sap River to watch the colorful spectacle of boat races. In addition, the religious celebration of Pchum Ben during which Cambodians remember the departed loved ones takes place in October.
We watched the boat race at the Water Festival.
And we watched the fluvial parade at night during the Water Festival.
Art
Many young contemporary artists are leading the way in Cambodia’s thriving art scene. The cities of Phnom Penh, Siem Reap, and Kampot all have galleries. In Phnom Penh, you can see the creations of emerging artists in Sa Sa Bassac, Java Cafe, and the Gallery. You can also stroll around Boeung Kak Lake in Phnom Penh for beautiful street art.
Street art in Boeung Kak Lake
Street in art Boeung Kak Lake
Great access to neighboring countries
If you have extra time to explore South East Asia, you could always visit its neighboring countries like Vietnam, Laos, and Thailand, which are equally fascinating regions with tons to offer. In fact, the Thailand-Cambodia-Vietnam trip is the most popular combo itinerary for a couple, group of friends, or family traveling to Southeast Asia because it includes almost all of the region’s distinctive attractions such as incredible temples, food, scenery, and architecture. If you are on a budget or if you wish to see the countryside, you can explore these places by bus (the buses are nice and comfortable), otherwise there are direct flights available.
One of the things I looked forward to last Christmas was catching up with my old friends and reliving moments from the past. I was really grateful that they made an effort to come together in spite of the bad weather and of their hectic schedule. The timing was also perfect as I got to see some friends I hadn’t seen in a long time since they are currently based abroad.
At D’Bukid
Undoubtedly, high school friends offer one of the best reunions because, each time we get together, it feels like high school again, as it always feels like nothing has ever changed, and they offer me a place to return to no matter how much time or distance separates us. So, it’s always home each time we see each other.
What fascinated me was that no activities were ever planned, but we ended up having several short and last-minute get-togethers. They were short getaways, but they were just right for feeding our souls with how much we miss each other and the memories we had before while making new ones. Another thing that amazed me was that we have become more conscious and aware of our time. We arrived on time, and when one of us said, “I have an appointment at this time, so I can only stay for an hour or two,” we became more understanding towards everyone’s needs and responsibilities. I liked it that way.
Here’s a short recap of all the fun we had together last Christmas:
Liam’s Bar and Grill – After I completed all the necessary administrative paperwork, I messaged my friend, Nanay of our group, to let her know I was in town and would love to meet up with whoever was available. We agreed to meet at Liam’s Cafe at 6 p.m. the following day since I hadn’t been there before. When we arrived, the restaurant was full, but we managed to get a table for ourselves. We had dinner with three other friends. We had salad, steak, and other foods. The place was small, but the food and service were good, and the prices were reasonable. I was glad to see them, and they were happy to see me. We checked on each other, laughed, and talked about random things—just the way it used to be.
Tandag Town Plaza – Then, we thought of strolling from the restaurant to Tandag Town Plaza to enjoy the colorful and joyful Christmas lights and decorations. Later, two more friends joined us. We screamed, hugged, and talked a lot the moment we saw each other. We asked a young stranger to take a good photo of us and eventually opted to go to Uptown Cafe for coffee and tea at eight o’clock in the evening.
Uptown Cafe – It was my first time at Uptown Cafe. It’s small but nice, and the staff were accommodating and friendly. Then, another friend came. I had hot tea, while others had coffee, juice and smoothie. We talked about a variety of things, but at one point, our conversation focused on work and on the benefits of slowing down, while also sharing what we do in our me-time. As usual, we enjoyed talking and laughing. What a lovely and fun evening it was!
Wine stop over at Grace’s place – It was nine o’clock in the evening when Dez drove us home while Dan drove the other group home. We dropped Grace off first, and we decided to stop for wine and also to see her new cozy place since Rayah and I weren’t there during the house blessing or house warming. We chit-chatted a little more, hahaha. It was fun, and we went home a little bit drunk!
Christmas Get-together – On December 24, we had a small Christmas get-together at Nanay’s house. We didn’t have everyone there, only a few, but we understood why. Our theme was black and white, and everyone brought a dish to nibble on. There was a cake, some puto and other local delicacies, a lechon manok, and a pasta dish. I prepared beef stroganoff cooked with mushrooms, tomatoes, onions, fresh cream, and beer. It was tricky, though, to find good, fresh ingredients in Tandag; for example, no fresh white button mushrooms were available. I managed to pull it off, and I used tin mushrooms instead. Also, to our great surprise, our friend, who is currently based in the USA, brought us a huge lechon. Lechon is a whole pig roasted over an open fire on a spit. It tastes really good as the meat has been seasoned with a variety of spices. The skin is crunchy, while the meat is soft and easily crumbles into pieces when chewed. No Filipino party is complete without a lechon (though it is not our national dish). We were supposed to exchange gifts, but it slipped our minds because we were too busy eating, drinking, talking, dancing, and singing karaoke. We had so much fun, and we were dancing on the ceiling!
D’Bukid Escapade – After the party, we decided to visit our friends at their farm house. Some of my friends had been there before, but for the three of us, it was the first time. While there, we took a quick tour of the farm. Their farm is lovely, large and well-kept. The location is perfect. It feels like you are far away from the city, but it’s actually within the town. Living on a farm is peaceful and enjoyable because there are no car horns, sirens, the odor of exhaust fumes, traffic jams, and too many lights in the evening. It’s amazing to see the animals born, the first sprouts of a newly planted field, the first blooms, and to pluck the first ripe tomato or eggplant or cucumber and eat them while walking the rows. Watching nature around you and seeing nature at work is wonderful, even if it is less glorified or glamorous.
Lechon Belly ni Kuya Matos
D’Bukid escapade
D’Bukid escapade
After the tour, our friends, brother Dan and Sheng, treated us to a home-cooked meal prepared by themselves: tilapia piaparan. It is prepared with home-raised organic tilapia fish cooked in coconut milk, desiccated coconut, chillies, shallots, turmeric powder, and homemade palapa. This local delicacy brought back happy memories and reminded me of our wonderful time in uni at MSU Main. Also, Rayah brought a homemade lechon belly, and Feb brought a homemade lechon manok. My opinion might be biased because they are my friends, but they have the best lechon belly and lechon manok in Tandag. I tried it at least three times on different occasions during my stay and bought some to give to friends, family, and relatives to try, and they all said that the lechon belly and lechon manok were both delicious—fresh, juicy, and tasty! Thanks Sheng and Brother Danny! We loved our sweet escape at the farm; it was laid-back, and certainly we had a whale of a party!
D’Bukid escapade
D’Bukid escapade
Laswitan Lagoon Adventure – December 26, when the weather was bad. It was pouring hard, and the wind was howling. So, we opted to go on a little adventure at Laswitan Lagoon because the best time to visit is during the Amihan season (October to March), when the waves are bigger. What makes Laswitan attract tourists is that it is a 20-foot rock formation with three lagoons. The name derives from the word “laswit” which means splash. When the water level is high, it creates huge waves that splash against the rocks, creating a waterfall effect. It’s stunning to watch, but not so safe when you swim (especially if you don’t know the safety rules).
Six of us braved the bad weather in search of thrills. So, we hit the road and made memories. While there, we met one of our friends, Junnie. We took a group photo together and a few video clips with big waves as the backdrop. We brought some snacks (mostly leftovers from the party). I did not swim because I forgot my water shoes, along with Grace, but the rest of the group did. We stood in our picnic hut and watched them swim and play in the waves. When the two gigantic waves arrived, they were rolled over under the water, but luckily they were safe. Oh boy, those were the biggest waves I’ve ever seen by far! It was absolutely an experience of a lifetime!
Many thanks to our dear friend, Froucan, for driving us along! Indeed, nothing beats a road trip with old friends, and the journey was definitely as much fun as the destination, and the entire trip was truly epic.
Cagwait White Beach – It was December 29th when we finally had nice weather! My friends picked me up at home for a quick afternoon getaway to Cagwait Beach! This time, we were nine! My friends brought some snacks such as turon and coffee, and along the way, we made a quick stop in Tago to buy buchi, etc. We took the new road (Lapaz Road) connecting Tago and Cagwait, making the trip shorter and more comfortable. It was my first time taking that route, and I enjoyed the road trip a lot because it was green, I could see the open sea on the left side, and there was a beautiful sun going down the horizon in front of us.
We stayed at LGU Beach Resort because it was more natural, chill, and tranquil than the other resorts. I spread a towel on the sand, and I lay down to sunbathe, even though it was only for a few minutes (maybe five minutes) as the sun began to set, and it felt good. Some of my friends were having a good time with their Tiktok dance moves while others were swimming. Later, I joined some friends swimming in the sea, and we talked about random stuff such as life, family, relationships, work, travel plans, and so on. As everyone was caught up in the grind of work, it was the best time to relax, enjoy, and let our hair down!
New Year Get-together – On December 30, we gathered once more at Grace’s place, and we made a toast to a prosperous new year and a fond farewell to the past; to the things that are yet to come and the memories we have made; to good will for all and a toast to lifelong friendships, as well as a toast to our friends near and far!
We had a lovely dinner with good food and wine. I had a great time singing and talking with them for an hour and a half before saying my goodbyes. Then, I had to rush back home because some cousins and relatives were staying with us for the night. It was right up our alley, and we had so much fun!
Reuniting and catching up with my old friends after four years was an amazing treat, and really belly laughing with them has been therapeutic!
The pandemic years have taught me to appreciate the good things in life and how much I miss my family. At that time, I think everyone’s emotions were on a roller coaster, with our own highs and lows. That is why, my son and I were overjoyed to be spending the holidays with our families in Tandag, our hometown, in December 2022, because the last time that we were there was in December 2018. My sister and brother, as well as their families, joined us for the holidays. My parents were on cloud nine because we (all their four children) were all there. We were almost complete, and we missed three family members, who couldn’t make it this time. I was grateful that our small family was growing, and I finally got to meet my niece and two nephews for the first time.
Our growing family
Papa and Mama
with my parents and my three siblings
with my siblings
During our fifteen-day vacation, we stayed indoors most of the time. It was very tricky to plan a family getaway to other places in the Philippines that we haven’t been to yet because it rained cats and dogs with strong winds almost every day and some places got flooded. In spite of the unfavorable weather, we were grateful because we were okay and safe, and we had plenty of time to catch up and enjoy the little things in life.
It rained almost every day.
My son and I attended masses at church with papa and mama, my siblings, and my nephews and nieces. We reflected on the events of the previous year, gave thanks for all that we have, and prayed together for a fun-filled, healthy, and prosperous year for all. After the mass, I had a mini-reunion with some relatives, cousins, aunts and uncles, old friends, neighbors, and fellow former members of a youth organization. The chapel also brought back memories of my active participation in church with my fellow youth. It felt like a homecoming for me because it was where my strong faith in God and my values were molded and shaped. We also went to St. Pio’s Chapel in Cag-inid one afternoon when the weather was not so rainy. We spent some time in silence there, meditating and saying our individual prayers.
At Sta. Cruz Chapel with Fr Phillip and former fellow youth members
with my family at St. Pio Chapel
Another thing I really enjoyed was spending time with Mama. We cooked together, and one of the dishes we made was 100% pure chocolate from fresh cacao seeds by candlelight, as heavy rains frequently caused power and water outages. My son helped us in removing the shells of dried cacao seeds, and my cousin and niece assisted us in molding the melted cacao into round shapes. My siblings and I brought some pure chocolate (tableya in our dialect) and homemade papaya pickles by Mama when we returned to our respective places.
Mama and I making chocolate from cacao seeds
Mama and I also had a good time at Luha Market as we hopped from stall to stall picking out fresh vegetables, fruits, and meat. It was also nice to run into some relatives, family friends, a former coworker, and high school classmates at the market. While Mama and I were doing our thing, my son and Papa were also having a great time. They went to the barbershop and swam in the sea early in the morning.
Papa and my son having a great time.
In the morning, Mama and I strolled through their garden, where she delighted in showing me all of her plants and flowers, while Papa showed us their fruit trees, such as grapefruits, small lime, and their animals. The best part was when the four of us slept together and crammed into a small room. Mama and I had our own conversations while Papa and my son chatted about random topics. We just kept talking about anything and everything until we all drifted off to sleep. It was sweet and lovely, and we appreciated it because we miss each other so much.
On December 27th, we gathered at my aunt’s house with my uncles, aunties, and cousins from my mother’s side. On New Year’s Day, we gathered everyone back at our house, including relatives from both sides (mom’s and dad’s). We had a large feast for both occasions, exchanged gifts, danced, sang karaoke, played parlor games, and had a lot of fun. We sang songs from previous generations. My son got to see and play with some of his cousins. It was wonderful to see everyone, especially those we hadn’t seen in a long time. Our family gatherings were especially meaningful to us because they helped strengthen our bonds and relationships and told us who we are as a family and as individuals. It also contributed to stability and allowed the younger generation to understand our large family, values, and culture. It was, indeed, a celebration of love and connection.
In spite of the bad weather, we managed to visit our maternal and paternal grandparents’ graves in the other town. We’re thankful to my brother-in-law, who drove us on that day, making our visit convenient and fuss-free. Personally, I am very close to my grandparents, so they hold a very special place in my heart, which is why my holidays in the Philippines won’t be complete if I can’t visit them. I remember, with my maternal grandma, all the travel adventures we had together, even when I was still a small kid. I learned from her how to do business and how to deal with people, and she taught me that it’s important to get involved in the community. Both of my grandparents, along with my parents, attended every moving-up ceremony at the end of the school year when I was still in elementary school. When my name was called and they saw me climbing up the stage, their faces were beaming with pride and joy as I received all my awards. And when I returned home from university, they always treated me to their homecooked meals and delicacies—my maternal grandparents always cooked tinolang manok, a Filipino chicken soup, with their home-raised native chickens, while my paternal grandparents prepared a very lovely bibingka, a Filipino cake made with rice flour. I always reminisce about all the fond memories we had together.
Due to the inclement weather, we were only able to visit a portion of our farm. We visited Cabangahan Farm, where I was born, where my sister fell into a well but was rescued, and where my father was illegally detained during Martial Law. It was a brief visit, but it brought back so many memories.
And when the sun came up the day before New Year’s, we took advantage of the pleasant weather and enjoyed a beautiful breakfast on the beach with family. We relished each other and everything—the peace and quiet, the morning ocean breeze, the sea, the sand, the sun, and my brother’s hearty breakfast in a stunning tropical paradise. Mabua Beach is special to us because it is where we grew up, and we have so many memories here, such as playing in the moonlight with our childhood neighbor friends, the New Year’s Eve countdown on the beach, when my siblings and I collected the picnic hut rentals from picknickers back then, and so many more.
Every day, most of us are preoccupied with our hectic daily routines at work and school. So, we tried to make the most of the holidays by spending as much time as possible with each other. It was wonderful to spend the holidays with my family, relatives, neighbors, and friends. My son and I were elated to see how content and healthy everyone appeared to be. Indeed, reconnecting face-to-face with our loved ones has never been more important, as it strengthens our bonds and creates more memories that will be passed down through the generations.
The Mont Saint-Michel is such a magical and interesting place that even seeing it from afar evokes feelings of awe. When my husband first took me there in July 2011, I was captivated by its incredible story. I must admit that seeing pictures of Mont Saint-Michel is fascinating, but experiencing it in person is jaw-dropping. So, without a doubt, we took our son to Mont Saint-Michel during our summer vacation in Bretagne this year to experience its enthralling beauty.
This foreboding-looking granite island protruding into the North Atlantic is located about half a mile off France’s Northwestern Normandy coastline. It rises 302 feet above sea level, is 247 acres in size, and is 3,150 feet in circumference. It is one of the most inspiring landmarks in France, Europe, and the world, and due to its historical and cultural significance, it was recognized as a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1979. It is undoubtedly one of our favorite places in France.
The magnificent Mont Saint Michel
When our son spotted Mont Saint-Michel from a distance, he was wowed! “Papa, why would anyone want to build anything on such an inhospitable piece of rock, constantly battered by the wind and waves of the North Atlantic?” As we walked from the parking lot to the entrance, my husband was happily explaining to him about the history and how it all began as a dream. It’s a majestic, spectacular sight when you’re walking down the path toward the island (cars aren’t allowed past a certain point), and you look up and see the island with the abbey and its magnificent cathedral crowning the top, rising above you, framed by the steel-blue sky of Normandy.
So, here are nine interesting facts why Mont Saint-Michel takes our breath away:
1. It started from a dream. According to the legend, Mont Saint-Michel was conceived in a dream in 708 when the archangel Michael appeared to bishop Aubert of Avranches and told him to build a church on the rocky islet. Bishop Aubert ignored him the first time and the second times, but when archangel appeared in his dream the third time, he took it seriously and began construction on the church. So, it started as a small church and evolved over the centuries into the magnificent abbey that we see today.
The statue of archangel Michael
2.It is a Medieval Village with residents. Mont Saint-Michel is a treasure trove for history lovers, dating back to 709. As we entered through the main paved street, the “Grand Rue,” which was lined with around sixty charming old houses we were ecstatically startled. Then, we got lost in the medieval backstreets, and strolled along the ramparts that surrounded Mont Saint-Michel, which were built in the 14th and 15th centuries. The ramparts at the island’s base, made up of numerous towers, were built to keep the English forces out and provided a breathtaking view of the bay as well as an excellent location for viewing the wonderful show of the tide coming in. Then we made our way up to the Abbaye and explored every nook and cranny. We then went to the hidden La Chapelle-Saint-Aubert. And on our way out of the village, we stopped for ice cream while admiring the bay and waiting for our transfer to the parking area. Although Mont Saint-Michel is a small medieval village with less than fifty residents, it offers a lot of things to discover, including the Abbaye du Mont-Saint-Michel, Fortifications, Eglise Paroissiale Saint-Pierre, Tour du Nord (ramparts), Terrasse de l’Ouest, La Grande Rue, Tour Gabriel, La Porte du Roy, Maison de Bertrand du Guesclin, La Poste, and many more. Also, some of the fine buildings that line the steep village street are now converted into museums, restaurants, hotels and shops for today’s tourists. The village is also known for having the world’s most expensive omelet at La Mère Poulard.
3.The Magnificent Abbey. The Abbaye is our favorite part of Mont Saint-Michel. It has been a prestigious site since ancient times. The incredible Abbey’s 1300-year construction is a living testament to French history and culture. It is divided into two parts: the church-abbey and the Merveille. The Merveille, which means “The Wonder,” where the monk lived has three levels and was built over 25 years. The east side has three rooms: the chaplaincy, the hosts room and the dining hall. The west side has three rooms as well: the wine cellar, the Knights room and the cloister. One of the areas that we like there is the charming cloister with glass windows and a little garden in the middle, which was built at the top of the hill in the thirteenth century. It adds a surprising soft domestic touch to a dramatic setting with dramatic views. It encapsulates the enchantment of the whole place. Despite Mont’s turbulent history and the destruction of the earlier part of the church, the site and abbey remain intact. It is now a monument to the Christian past, preserved by a small monastic community. The buildings of the Abbey and its surrounding village have been meticulously maintained, restored, or renewed over time in accordance with their histories. For us, we think that your visit to Mont-Saint-Michel will be incomplete if you do not see the abbey. I’ve heard that not all tourists who visit the place get to explore the abbey because the climb up to the top is steep, narrow, and cobblestoned. Plus, there are also several flights of stairs that you need to climb.
4. A diversity of architectural styles. The beautiful Benedictine Abbey, built on a rocky island, is a striking example of a diversity of authentic architectural styles, an evidence of the mastery and expertise of several generations of builders, and a symbol of an undisputed technical and artistic feat. One of the areas that we liked is the church as it is where the Romanesque meets Gothic. The nave of the abbey church also shown a Romanesque architecture. The Merveille is a splendid illustration of the spirit of Gothic art that was popular throughout Western Europe at that time. Its bold architecture consists of three layered levels, culminating at a height of 35m, supported by sixteen powerful buttresses. The oldest part of the Abbey is Notre-Dame-sous-Terre, a small pre-Romanesque church with a double nave built-in granite masonry and flat brick. Furthermore, the architecture of the stone and timber-framed houses stacked in tiers surrounded by steep, rocky embarkments is beautiful and many of which are classified as historic landmarks.
5.It has served so many purposes
It was an important pilgrimage destination. Around the 10th century, Mont Saint-Michel became one of the important pilgrimage destinations in Europe. Back then, the journey was very difficult as there was no bridge connecting the island to the mainland, so anyone who wanted to visit had to wait for the low tides to cross. Being able to complete this trip was a proof of your commitment to God.
It was an undefeated fortress. Mont Saint-Michel has become a symbol of French resilience because the English troops, in spite of a full-scale attack in 1433, were unable to conquer it during the Hundred Years War due to its strong fortifications and natural defense (tides and quicksand). It is a heavily fortified tidal island surrounded by water with strong high tides everywhere, making it difficult for the attackers to invade. Even at low tide, the area around is too sandy, and the surrounding quicksand trapped and drowned the English troops, making them easy targets for the French troops on Mont Saint-Michel.
It was once a prison. In the 17th century, the king of France, Louis XIV, started using part of the island into a political prison. Also, in the 18th century, during the French Revolution, the abbey got closed and converted into a prison known as “Bastille of the Sea” that held about 14,000 prisoners. The prison was closed in 1863 due to massive campaign by many influential figures, including Victor Hugo to restore the island and save this architectural treasure.
6.The beautiful bay, dangerous quicksand, and powerful tides. The tides at Mont Saint-Michel rise quickly and can reach almost 14 meters high, which is considered one of the largest tides in Europe. It is forbidden to cross the sand on your own, unless you are accompanied by a certified guide, because you might get trapped by quicksand and sink.
7.The wind is gravity-defying. Mont-Saint-Michel is very exposed to the sea winds as it is situated off the French coast right between Normandy and Brittany – two regions known in France for harsh winds and in general tough weather. During our visit on a windy summer day, we encountered a very fascinating phenomenon, as we saw water falling from the gutters.
8.It inspired so many movie castles. The Mont Saint-Michel is breathtaking to see in reality and has fascinated many people. Thus, it is no surprise that it was chosen as a wonderful inspiration for the castle of Rapunzel’s parents in Tangled, for Minas Tirith in The Lord of the Rings, and for Mickey, Donald, and Goofy: The Three Musketeers.
9.It is a top cultural attraction. Mont Saint-Michel is one of the most visited places in France. The residents welcome three million visitors each year, who are enchanted by the old roots of the monastery, the religious significance of this medieval masterpiece, and to see the extraordinary feat of medieval eclectic architecture. Who could blame anyone for wanting to visit this iconic island, with over one thousand years of history under its belt?
My family and I really enjoyed wandering around and spending time in that amazing place, just contemplating its beauty. Thus, I would like to end my post with this inspiring quote from American historian Henry Adams: “Church and State, Soul and Body, God and Man, are all one at Mont Saint-Michel.”
Little Lilly travel tips:
Wear comfortable walking shoes because the tour around Mont Saint-Michel is steep, and the path to venture up the abbey is full of stairs.
Bring a good jacket as it is quite windy there even during the summer.
Each one of us learns so many lessons from life. That is why, to me, birthdays are a time of reflection on how far I’ve come and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. So when I turned forty this year in March, I had the opportunity to look back and reflect on my life, and I realized I had grown into the woman I am today. It’s been an incredible journey, and I’m constantly amazed at what can happen when I approach life with an open heart, a curious mind, and a flaming desire to keep learning and serving.
This is me at 40. It was taken last July 2022 in Bretagne, France.
Here are the 40 life lessons I’ve learned over all these years that have had an impact on my life:
1. God’s plan is far superior to anything you have planned. Humble yourself to God because He takes your messes, rearranges them, and always creates something amazing that you could never have imagined.
2. Pray and give thanks everyday. Having a thankful heart has changed my entire perspective and outlook on life. And I have learned that one of the best ways to experience the power of thanksgiving is through prayer. In addition, since 2021, I started filling in my gratitude jar with the list of things I am grateful for for that day.
3. Family is everything. While the world is becoming more modern and advanced, my husband and I teach our son that the meaning of family and what it represents remains the same — it is the strongest unit in one’s life because, no matter what situation you are in, your family will never leave you and will always stand alongside you to overcome the hardships in life; and it is the fundamental unit of society because communities thrive when families are strong. Families are the first school, and the teachings strengthen our bonds and give us reasons to stand by each other as we share the same values. It has shaped our lives by instilling values of love, respect, faith, hope, compassion, trust, loyalty, happiness, and belonging. I am blessed that I have a big, loving, and supportive family, and growing up in a loving home provides a solid foundation for anyone.
4. Parenting is easy. It has been a blissful and joy-filled experience for me to be a parent to my one and only child for the past fifteen years. I tried to balance everything — the relationship with my son, his academics, him learning a new skill, and so on — and set the right priorities. I discovered that having a close relationship and a secure attachment to him made everything else easier.
5. Empower your child to dream big by not making your goals and dreams his or hers. Passion, I believe, fuels purpose. My son will be more motivated to work harder to make his dreams come true if they are anchored to a clear vision and driven by his interests. And when failure, discouragement, and fear keep him from pursuing, my husband and I can be the voice of reason that encourages him to embrace the challenges ahead. As parents, we play a vital role in inspiring him to have the courage, confidence, and certainty to dream by championing his passion, teaching him the value of resilience, and equipping him with the tools he needs to succeed, such as the right knowledge and skills, and providing him with learning opportunities that broaden his perspective of the world.
6. Living below your means is essential for your health and well-being. When you manage your money properly, you avoid debts, reduce financial worries and general stress, and enjoy the peace that comes with financial freedom and security, as well as enjoy family life. For me, “living below your means” simply means spending less than what I earn each month by making a budget, tracking my expenses and spending, not using credit cards, avoiding loans, and cutting out unnecessary spending, all while enjoying all the things I love in life. I also make sure that my budget covers my daily expenses, that I can pay for any unexpected expenses, and that I plan for the future.
7. Keep the spark alive. Whatever life throws at you and your partner, it’s important that you both make time to date each other, connect with each other, and seek new shared experiences in order to keep your relationship exciting, healthy, and the spark alive.
8. Live a life of service. Help others as much as you can. Volunteering as a family is even better because it brings your family members closer together and allows your children to connect to things larger than themselves and allows them to see the world through the eyes of others. Sharing our time and other resources motivates me and my family to put our shared values and beliefs into action while making a positive impact in our community through the services we provide and being a significant source of inspiration for others.
9. Celebrate life everyday and everywhere. It is important because it is a sign of hope and a triumph over adversity. It also reminds me to enjoy the journey and boosts my confidence. I consider it as a mindset that allows me to pursue big things in life, without sacrificing the small things that make life worth living.
10. Be a good friend. I’d like to think I wear my heart on my sleeve when it comes to friendships. Good friendships require effort and give-and-take to develop, maintain, and nurture, because good friends are good for your health and well-being. Good friends keep me from feeling isolated and lonely, and they allow me to provide much-needed companionship. Although having a diverse network of friends and acquaintances is beneficial, I feel a greater sense when I cultivate close, meaningful relationships that will support me through thick and thin — celebrate in good times and provide support during bad times. It’s important that I am a good friend and that I surround myself with good friends by being kind, being a good listener, opening up, showing that I can be trusted, making myself available, and managing my nerves with mindfulness.
11. Commit yourself to lifelong learning. Life is better when you are open to new experiences. It is the self-motivated pursuit of knowledge, new skills, or professional development. I make it a point to never stop learning; I seek to grow and take advantage of every opportunity to learn, whether personally or professionally, by learning a skill or a hobby outside of my profession, because it not only enhances my social inclusion, active citizenship, and individual development, it also increases my competitiveness and employability. Plus, learning something new is also more enjoyable and fulfilling. So, say yes to the things that will make your soul come alive, because learning makes life interesting!
12. Satisfaction comes from within. I realized that you cannot buy, borrow, or steal satisfaction. Every person experiences it differently, and it is important to understand that what makes you satisfied may not make another satisfied. It allows me to reframe my thinking, refocus, and look at situations from other perspectives in order to achieve satisfaction. I realized that greater satisfaction in all aspects of life leads to greater productivity, success, and happiness.
13. Fall in love with the process. Everything we do seems to be measured by our instant results. Our goals, we believe, are all about the end result. But don’t become too fixated on your goals because the only way to achieve them is to fall in love with the process of what you do — work hard, be consistent, and be patient — because the process will help you refocus your energy, pay attention, and appreciate the results. One of my goals is to stay fit, so I may need to lose a few pounds. But the only way for me to get there is to fall in love with the process of eating healthy and exercising consistently. Also, if you are an athlete, the thought of practice does not always seem as glamorous as game day, when there’s no one cheering you on as you take that foul shot. Taking time to appreciate the endless hours of practice while eventually developing a process will make those moments even more worthwhile and exciting. So, take pleasure in the process as well as the outcome.
14. Don’t sweat over small stuff. Instead, I streamline — simplify, organize, and reduce. I write down the things that bother me or cause me stress throughout the day or week. Then, I cross out the minor items on my list and reduce my world to the major issues that matter. Then, I embrace them and focus on dealing with them in a stress-free fashion. What about the small stuff? I just simply let it go…
15. Simplicity is always best! It makes things easy, brings clarity instead of confusion and a decision instead of doubt. Living simply entails getting rid of the unnecessary and focusing your time and energy on the things that are most important to you. I have realized that when I simplify, I am left with a meaningful life — a life lived on my own terms, as I have the time and space to pursue my passions and interests and create the life I truly desire. Furthermore, living a simple life allows me to be free, and true happiness is often found in the simplest things.
16. Learn to say no. And avoid being overcommitted to people or things. We all have limited energy, time, and resources, and it is our responsibility to use them wisely. Saying no allows me to direct my time and energy toward the people and aspects of my life that truly deserve it. I have realized that some people are actually grateful for our clarity and honesty, and they respect our boundaries. Those who do not are not worth my time and energy.
17. Travel more. Traveling is one of the important parts of my life because it allows me to get away from my hectic schedule. In addition to exploring new places, cultures, cuisines, and ways of life, traveling allows me to broaden my horizons and move me in new directions, recharge my energy, unplug from the pulls and pushes of daily life, improve my mental health and well-being, and forget my worries, frustrations, and fears. Because life is too short, why not travel the world and make memories?
18. Read more books and read them everyday. I have noticed that putting time aside to lose myself in a good book regularly has far-reaching and life-changing effects. Reading is a healthy part of my daily routine because it relaxes me, improves the quality of my sleep, makes me more emphatic, broadens my knowledge, and gives me pleasure. In 2018, I started setting my reading goal of one book per week, and I’m glad I’m sticking to it despite my hectic schedule.
19. Commit yourself to regular physical activity. Staying active is a natural mood booster that keeps the doctors away, and it is one of the best ways to keep our bodies healthy and improve our quality of life by making us feel, look, and live better. I am an advocate of staying fit for free by doing my daily morning exercise (at least 15 minutes walk-at-home and yoga) in our tiny living room! It does not necessitate going to the gym or purchasing a fancy workout suit; instead, all that is required is consistency and determination. I have noticed that when I am fit, I have a lot of energy throughout the day.
20. Don’t be afraid to admit mistakes and work out why your choice was wrong. It demonstrates that you’re human, that you have the ability to reflect on your actions, that you have the moral courage to step into the breach and hold your hands up, and it says a lot about your character — acting with integrity. I believe that having the courage to actually admit a mistake and take action is essential to achieving success. Also, I have learned that people will empathize and understand more than you think if you admit that you make mistakes.
21. Unplug, and take a break from screens. Powering down from time to time promotes a healthier and happier lifestyle because it allows you to reset and refocus on appreciation and gratitude for all you’ve been given, paves the way for simple pleasures like reading, walking, or building a puzzle, and urges you to connect to the natural world. In my home, we make mealtimes a no-phone zone and phones should be silenced before you keep it somewhere because notifications are distracting, so that we can savor the meal, converse naturally, and make each mealtime a wonderful event. Furthermore, we make sure that we do not use electronic devices at least 15 minutes before going to bed.
22. You can’t make everyone happy, no matter how hard you try. You must know when people need your help and when they simply want to take advantage of your selflessness and generosity. Also, if you base your entire self-worth on other people’s happiness with you, you’re doomed to fail because it’s exhausting and unhealthy, and it is simply impossible to make everyone happy all the time. I have learned to accept that not everyone will agree with what I do or say or stand for. Furthermore, while external validation feels great, it’s only temporary because it wears off quickly and you need it again. It’s filling a void where confidence and self-worth should be. After all, even if you’re not everyone’s cup of tea, you’re still pretty.
23. Happiness is really a choice. It is about how you view life, and that perspective determines everything. Sometimes you see your present life as either worse than you expected or better than you deserve. Also, money and happiness are not the same thing. Because money can satisfy both needs and wants and can afford you luxury and comfort. Well, there’s nothing wrong with indulging in luxuries, just as there’s nothing wrong with being poor. However, over the years, I have realized that the only luxury I have is the ability to wake up every morning, and when I start my day with a grateful heart, happiness comes from within.
24. Self-confidence is only gained. Through the years, I have realized that self-confidence is a very important aspect in life because it is about being more positive, valuing yourself, trusting your judgment, admitting and learning from your failures and mistakes, and feeling your worth regardless of any imperfections or what others think about you. And I’ve learned over the years that the only way to build my confidence is to always keep on trying. It’s like trying and failing. Please try again. Fail yet again. More attempts equals fewer failures. Try one more time, and then you succeed.
25. You will make mistakes, you will fail, but learn from them. Change is one of the few constants in our world, may it be in your career, where you live, whom you love, technology, and what you value. Change brings about unfamiliar situations, which bring about mistakes. Plus, life is hard but a beautiful adventure — you will experience highs and lows, but your situation will get better. So, no matter what you do, making mistakes is an unavoidable part of life, and they can be excellent learning opportunities that lead to success. Even if it is a difficult lesson to learn because you have to confront your bruised ego and hurt pride, you will grow, flourish, and become a better person, and it will undoubtedly make all the difference.
26. Home-cooked meals are the best! Home-cooked food not only provides comfort food and inspires creativity, it also strengthens family bonds and connects us to our roots. There is a sense of security that sometimes brings tears to my eyes when I smell a familiar aroma in the air or taste that particular spiciness in the air. Food, indeed, brings us together.
27. Seven hours of sleep and a short nap after lunch are a must! It’s the foundation of good health; it gives me energy, and improves my mood. Without enough sleep and a nap, I am weak and grumpy!
28. Spend quality time with family. My family will only be a happy one if I give it time, such as eating dinner together, discovering new things, volunteering as a family, etc. Spending quality time with family increases happiness and satisfaction, helps cope with challenges, inculcates family values, instills a feeling of security and confidence in children, and so much more. It encourages me to live a healthier lifestyle and motivates me to be the best version of myself.
29. Work-life balance is a key. There is a need to maintain a work-life balance in which your personal and professional lives are separated without allowing one to interfere with the other because both are important and should not be neglected. When you spend too much time at work, you will begin to neglect important people in your life. Also, you need to take care of yourself, your wellbeing, and your family. And by organizing yourself and managing your time effectively, you will be surprised at how much you can accomplish in less time.
30. Find a hobby that you enjoy. Having a hobby that you enjoy brings you joy and enriches your life by providing you with something fun to do in your leisure time, allowing you to learn new skills, and reducing your boredom. For me, it’s my blog, reading, baking and cooking, photography, and homemaking. I’ve discovered that once you find a hobby that you truly enjoy and are passionate about, you become hooked on it, and it becomes a part of your life that captivates you in a very personal way. Furthermore, my husband and I learned that finding a hobby and trying new things together that we both enjoy is the best way to reignite the spark and spice up our love for each other. In our case, we both like cooking and walking in the woods together.
31. Let go of grudges and bitterness! Because holding on to unforgiveness and hurt will only steal your joy. In my opinion, forgiveness doesn’t absolve someone of guilt and doesn’t mean what they did is right and acceptable. It means you’re letting go of resentment and thoughts of revenge and moving on. Learning to leave the past in the past and look to the future with hope for the best is the way to move forward. By accepting forgiveness, you accept peace and joy.
32. You must have systems in place for everything. A system for managing multiple tasks, information, and responsibilities that allows you to manage work in a coherent and structured manner while also creating an efficient workflow structure. I’m sure no one wants to wake up excited about systems, but I believe that without a system, you will fail.
33. For every action, there is a reaction. Choose your words and actions carefully. It is critical to consider the consequences and ensure that it will not have a negative impact on those around you before saying something, acting, or posting on social media. People may also be caught off guard by your message or fail to respond appropriately to your gestures. By thinking before you speak, you can save yourself from trouble and avoid hurting someone.
34. Patience is a virtue. In life, you will have to wait for a lot of things without feeling negative and frustrated. Great things take time and you need to learn to give time. When you become patient you will achieve your biggest goals and avoid making hasty decisions. Patience makes you a better person because you overcome any challenging situation with more flexibility.
35. Don’t take anything for granted. Appreciate what you have before it is gone — health, your family and friends, a job, business, possessions, and so on — because nothing in your life, including the people you love, is guaranteed to be there tomorrow. Circumstances such as pandemics, wars, climate change, etc. have thrown the world into a state of uncertainty, replacing the usual sense of collective security with omnipresent fears of losing what you have, including a loved one.
36. Every problem has a solution. Life is a beautiful journey — watch it unfold and be open to the shocks and surprises it may bring. Life can be difficult at times because of what you expected and what it has given you. There are some things we can control, while others are beyond our control. But every problem has a solution, just as every lock has a key. The best part is that everyone has an equal right to solve any problem that is thrown at them. While good times make your heart sing, bad times should make you tough enough to face life’s challenges. So enjoy life — believe and work hard that everything you desire will come true and that every problem has a solution; you just need to discover it.
37. Live life to the fullest! Life is short, and you never know what tomorrow will bring. So live life to the fullest by filling your life with gratitude and doing things that make you happy, such as traveling, trying out new things, raising a family, performing random acts of kindness, or anything else that involves finding meaning or purpose in what you do or how you spend your time.
38. Find beauty and joy in the little things. Life is made of little things. Every day, allow yourself to see and enjoy the beauty and joy in small things — a walk in the woods, a chilly breeze, an unexpected compliment, money found in your trouser pocket, a colorful butterfly, your favorite song playing on the radio, a little child’s giggle, a cute little street, a cup of tea with a good book, or sand on your toes — they’re the precious moments that fill our lives with meaning and happiness.
39. Be kind and nice to people. Being nice to others every day is an important way to spread kindness and positivity. Showing kindness to others does not have to be doing something big or life-changing. In fact, the smallest acts of kindness, such as a moment of support in a time of need, a word of encouragement, a helping hand to carry a heavy load, or simply a smile, can often have the greatest impact. Kindness makes you smarter because it requires you to think about others as well as yourself.
40. Embrace all your quirks. It’s liberating to embrace the full me and know that is what makes me so unique. I have met people who told me, “You are the shortest woman I have met.” “Why are you so small?” “You are weird” or “You are interesting” or “You are one of a kind”, I am grateful, because at least I am not a carbon copy of everyone else.
I may have a few gray hairs now, but these life lessons serve as a constant reminder of my life story. I celebrate and turn a new page in my life’s book. I can’t wait to learn even more over the next ten years, and I’m thrilled to have you all along on this journey.
After visiting some famous charming castles and very old, enormous churches, my family and I thought of heading to some off-the-beaten locations in order to go on adventures and enjoy discovering odd bits of history. So, we got in the car and started driving.
We were ecstatic to see a sign for the Devil’s Bridge (Pont-Krac’h / Pont du Diable) after navigating along those winding, narrow roads. This very old bridge, which spans a confined section of the Aber Wrac’h, is perched atop a sizable rock in the center of the riverbed. It is submerged by each incoming tide. It has seven vaulted tunnels – three on the Plougerneau side, two in the middle, and two small ones on the Lannilis side – that are spanned by the structure, which is 78 meters long and 5 to 6 meters wide.
The use of the site evolved over time. At the end of the Middle Ages (although some date the bridge back to the Iron Age), a passageway was made in the middle of the bridge to allow boats to get past. Then, at the start of the 19th century, a mill was constructed on the Plougerneau side, obstructing access. The bridge was eventually reopened to traffic in the middle of the 1850s, and locals continued to use it until 1960. It then became derelict, but it was restored in 2008. It is impressive to know that this medieval bridge is thought to have been around since the Roman era.
When we arrived, nobody was there. However, a few minutes later, an elderly couple and another family of three came. It was low tide then, so we were able to cross the bridge, and we leisurely strolled the nice forest on the other side.
It was a great escape, and it was wonderful to put down the electronics, unplug for a while, and just enjoy the moment. With no internet and no phone, we were disconnected from the outside world and fully savored our experiences. And the farther we got from the trail, the more thrilled and happier we were.
If you are in Bretagne/Brittany and looking for an adventure, and off-the-beaten path to wanderlust, Le Pont du Diable is for you!
Beautiful Brittany in France is home to fairytale-like castles. Luckily for me, my husband and my son also enjoy exploring old buildings and architecture. So, one of our favorite things to do here is to go from one castle to the other, because there is truly something breathtakingly beautiful about castles and palaces. We like history, we admire architecture, and we enjoy looking at art. And in castles, it all comes together perfectly.
For us, visiting a castle is like stepping into another historical era. Every room has a story to tell and every stone has a tale to tell — a story of war and of peace; a story of honor and of romance, among other things. And many pieces on display also whisper their own secrets of a bygone era.
One of the castles that caught our attention was the magnificent feudal Chateau de Kerouzéré overlooking the countryside in Sibiril, in the northern Finistere of Brittany, which was built in Roman architecture in the late Middle Ages, or medieval era, in 1425. It was besieged in 1590 during the French Wars of Religion, and it was rebuilt around 1600. In 1883, it was listed as a historic monument, and it is one of the last castles in the region to be in very good condition.
We were on a group tour along with other European travelers, and our guide was excellent. He explained well the details of the castle. He told us that in three years time, the castle is going to celebrate its 600 years! The Chateau de Kérouzéré is magnificent!
Every castle is unique, and our visit to the castle of Kérouzéré was a fascinating escape. What are you waiting for? Push the door of Chateau de Kérouzéré if you are in the northern Finistere of Brittany; it is waiting for you to share some of its secrets and magnificence.
Little Lilly travel tips:
Entrance fees: 5 euros for 18+ years old, 3 euros for 10 to 18 years old and free for children under 10 years old.
People with mobility problems can only visit the ground. It is impossible to go up due to so many steep stairs.
The castle park can be visited free of charge all year round.
It is possible to visit the interior of the castle all year round and it is also possible to rent some rooms of the castle for special events like weddings. Here’s the castle website for more information: https://www.kerouzere.fr/Chateau_de_Kerouzer_1./Visites.html
It was a beautiful day with nice weather—sunny but breezy and chilly. So we decided to visit the Chapelle du Grouanec, a place we hadn’t seen before.
Chapelle du Grouanec
Chapelle du Grouanec
According to old documents, the chapel of Grouanec was built in 1503, and was dedicated to Our Lady. It was constructed in the Gothic style, and the chapel as a whole is magnificent— both the superb interior decorations and a lovely garden as well as a nice forest surrounding it.
It has a well-balanced and comprehensive chapel ensemble. A stunning stained-glass window that is located above the high altar gives the church’s interior its opulent feel. Along with other stained-glass windows and beautiful jewel-like paintings on panelings, there was also a frieze that was carved out of wood and painted. The holy fountain and the cavalry are all connected to the enclosure’s religious history. Also, its statuary offers a vivid palette of Breton sculptors’ work. Undeniably, the entire location exudes an alluring charm that permeates the chapel’s sanctuary. It goes without saying that it encourages the quiet pause that is secretly desired.
When we went there, they were preparing for a wedding. I really adored the wedding decoration – very simple, yet very classy and symbolic. Can you imagine exchanging vows in a centuries-old structure with a rich history?
If you are in the area, the 519-year-old Chapelle du Grouanec is one of the hidden little gems that we would highly recommend. It is definitely worth a visit!
We explored the town of Landerneau, Bretagne, which has a remarkable architectural heritage. One of its architectural gems is the famed 70-meter-long Rohan bridge, which was built by Jean II de Rohan in 1510 (16th century), replacing a wooden structure dating back to the 12th century. For many years, it was the only way to cross the Elorn at Landerneau, which gave it strategic importance for trade.
This medieval bridge has six stone arches standing in saltwater. The buildings, which stand on granite piles, have been home to generations of wealthy artisans and linen merchants. It now has lively shops, restaurants, and cafes. So, up until now, it is one of Europe’s inhabited bridges, along with the iconic Ponte Vecchio in Florence, Italy. Another oddity of the Rohan Bridge is that beneath it, the Elorn River’s freshwater and the Atlantic Ocean’s saltwater both pass through the bridge, with a fascinating history to tell.
As we strolled along the banks of the river Elorn, we passed a succession of beautiful residences dating from the 16th to 19th centuries and nice gardens on the quaysides. Also, we saw some shops closed, due to the pandemic, and some people eating very peacefully on the pavements of restaurants.
If you enjoy searching out very old and quirky bits of history, this 512-year-old ancient inhabited bridge is for you! It’s a gentle beauty!
Little Lilly travel tip:
In the the summer, you can gently canoe down the Elorn.
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